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The Becoming

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Intimate circles for mamas in the early years of mothering who want to connect and bear witness to the often unspoken truths of what it takes to fully step into this life-changing role. 

Do you feel changed by motherhood?

 

Many moms feel like they’re no longer who they were before…but they aren’t yet sure who they’re becoming.

There’s a word for it: Matrescence.

Matrescence is the process of becoming. It’s a life stage similar to adolescence where teens ask themselves who they want to be and how they want to show up in the world, but it happens again when we become mamas. It often takes two to three years to fully step into a new identity.

Becoming a mom can change our values and priorities; our desires and ambitions. Not to mention our relationships to time, our career and the world.

Yet so much of society asks us to either snap back to our old selves as quickly as possible…or to dissolve ourselves entirely into this new role.

What if there’s a third option?

Welcome to The Becoming.

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This is for you if:

  • You feel changed by motherhood in ways you can’t quite name

  • You’re asking quiet questions like What do I want now? or Who am I becoming?

  • You want conversation that goes deeper than logistics and survives without advice-giving

  • You crave reflection, language, and space—not fixing

This is not for you if:

  • You’re looking for parenting strategies or baby-focused support

  • You want constant reassurance or solutions

  • You’re not interested in examining your inner life right now

Who You Are

You’re not broken, dear Mama.

You’re becoming.

Not your average mom group…

 

This is not a parenting group.

Here, we aren’t meeting to discuss feeding, sleeping or developmental stages of the baby.

Instead, we are here to talk about you, the mama, and how this role has impacted every aspect of your life—career, creativity, ambition, desire, rest—without needing to explain or justify yourself.

We’re meeting to honor the uncertainty of who you're becoming and what comes next.

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What You Can Expect:

 

A Safe Space

For facilitated conversations around identity, meaning, work, rest, creativity, and self-trust.

Journaling

We’ll begin each session with reflection prompts designed to generate insight—not perform vulnerability…so we can write ourselves into a new story.

Witnessing

You’ll leave each session feeling truly seen and heard. Everyone’s voice matters here.

Community

A consistent, respectful and intimate container with the same other thoughtful moms each time. My hope is you’ll leave with lifelong friends!

 
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How it works 

We’ll meet every other week for a total of four sessions over eight weeks. We’ll begin by checking in with ourselves and each other. Then we’ll have time for facilitated journaling, discussion, witnessing and mingling over tea and snacks.

You won’t leave with a new identity.
But you will leave with:

  • clearer language for who you are now

  • permission to want what you want

  • less self-abandonment

  • a felt sense that you are not alone or broken

Meet Your Facilitator

Hi, I’m Jessica! I became a mom sixteen months ago, and I was wildly unprepared for the way it would change me as a person, not just my life. I remember telling my therapist that I no longer felt like my old self, that I felt like I was evolving into something better, but I wasn’t quite her yet. “I think I’m going to like her,” I said. “But this part is so uncomfortable.”

“There’s a term for it,” she said. “It’s called ‘matrescence.’”

I’m still in the messy middle of matrescence, but I’ve been on a deep dive into the word since I first heard it. I’ve listened to the podcasts, read the books, hired a coach and am now enrolled in both a Motherhood Studies certification program, and the Co-Active coach pathway toward ICF certification.

In short, motherhood has already changed me. I’m now on a mission to raise awareness about matrescence and help new moms go from surviving to thriving by fully stepping into the woman they are now so that, together, we can make the world a better place for our children.

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Upcoming Dates

April 1 - May 29

We’ll meet on the following Wednesdays from 3:00 - 4:00 PM PST:

  • April 1

  • April 15

  • April 29

  • May 13

COST: $60

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Frequently Asked Questions

 

  • Life is busy. You’re not expected to attend perfectly.

    While the circle is designed as a four-session experience—and each gathering builds on the last—you’re welcome even if you know you may miss a session.

    We simply ask that you come when you can, and engage with care when you’re here, so the integrity of the group is respected.

  • The sessions will be held in The Eart Room at Hanai Foundation:

    62430 Eagle Road
    Bend, Oregon 97701

    We’ll meet on the following Wednesdays at 1pm PST:

  • The Becoming isn’t about a specific stage of motherhood.
    It’s about the inner shifts that can happen at any point—early on, years later, or in moments of transition.

    If you feel yourself changing, questioning, or reorienting, you’re in the right place.

  • This time is intentionally set aside for you—as a person, not only as a parent.
    We ask that participants attend without children so everyone can be fully present. Some moms may wish to organize a shared childcare experience. If this is a deterrent, we will work on providing it for future circles!

 

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